Philippians 4:13

I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

It was the day my middle daughter’s OP score was to arrive. I remember the tense morning waiting for the postman then the dash to the mailbox, then the overwhelming fear when the moment hit her, she had to open the letter.

It had been a long hard road till now. Amber had a form of dyslexia and so study and school didn’t come as easy as it did for others and on top of that a profound shyness. I will never forget when she decided she wanted a Thursday evening/ Saturday morning job, to give her extra money. We were up at the local shops and we saw a sign in the Chemist window, ‘casual wanted’! I remember saying to her that here was her opportunity. She wanted to apply so badly but was so painfully shy she wouldn’t go in. So I sat on the seat outside the Chemist and said, ‘well I’m not moving from here till you go in and apply!’ Hours and hours later, finally she struck up the courage, went in and was hired on the spot!

Now in a moment of tearing open the letter was truth time. Did she get the OP score to get her accepted into nursing?

As she read the letter the tears streamed down her face, she missed out by 2 points! Disappointment overwhelmed her; rejection and failure were taking root in her soul!



We sat down and refocused. What could she do, all she needed was to do a course for a year, get the credits and then go into nursing. Amber applied for Sociology, and did reasonably well. The next year she started nursing but soon realised it was psychology that really amazed her!

From a girl who was too shy to apply for a Saturday job, Amber went on to become a State Manager for a large Skin Care Company, was poached by David Jones and soon became the manager of their premier store in the City, managing 2000 staff and a $10 million account a week!

Amber stuck by principles and core values through this process, it was not easy for a shy girl with dyslexia to become a manager of a staff of thousands and on the most wanted list!

Her basic principles are:

  • Daily reading of the Word and prayer
  • Weekly, monthly, yearly goal setting
  • Tithing…. Amber and her husband are avid tithers and great givers


BUT what was it that caused triumph over t the initial failure to now where she is a triumphant and prosperous in all she does!

James 1:12

Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.


Rejection and failure of any sort is a fork in the road: You are presented with two options: You can either shrink back or grow.

Many people understand (theoretically at least) that failure is an opportunity for growth, but few truly grasp how to take full advantage.

Owning up to her failure was an empowering thing and it can be the same for others, too.

Here are a few tips that we gave our daughter and helped her with to move forward after a less than ideal turn of events:

1. Listen

2 Timothy 2:23-24

Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels.  And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.


When you’re told that what you’ve presented or offered isn’t good enough, it’s easy to line up your defenses and equip yourself with all the reasons that you are, in fact, good enough or do the opposite and decide you know why you will never be good enough!

First thing to do is to calm your defenses and tune in. Consider what the other person is saying when they give you good practical encouraging feedback. Do your best to pay attention at first without passing judgment.

Take a step back and listen. What weaknesses are detected?

2. Analyse

While understanding that the feedback you’ve received is just an opinion, consider the parts that resonate.

Hearing the truth about something you’re trying to hide or cover up might throw you off balance the most.

Do not walk backward: Walk forward into the feedback, even if it stings.

Sort through the rejection. What does the person offering feedback do especially well? What are his or her strengths? Focus on the feedback given for those areas. Draw upon the expertise of others.

We all need to hear feedback, even if it isn’t what you want to hear.

3. Adjust

Romans 5:3-5

Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;  perseverance, character; and character, hope.  And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us


After drawing on feedback of others, sometimes it’s necessary to consider making adjustments.

Based on your analysis, figure out the adjustments you can make to your performance, and for the future.

Mull the best ways to go about making these changes. Set goals. Perhaps you lack organisational skills. Start with small changes, maybe keeping a to-do list.

Weigh where you hope to be in a month or two or a year.

Be fully committed to taking the road forward. Own the changes that need to be made and hold yourself accountable to seeing them through.

Be grateful that you were given the opportunity to explore potential pitfalls and strengthen yourself. Be appreciative that someone took the time to shake things up.

4. Reassess

Schedule weekly or monthly check-ins in order to hold yourself accountable for accomplishing the needed changes and measure your progress in meeting the goals you’ve set. Are you keeping up with them?

Assess the effect of the changes on the overall state of your performance or product.

Consider the following: Have the changes hurt more than they’ve helped? Or have the changes been for the better?

Perhaps you’ve noticed changes inside yourself. Keep track of the effects of these changes, keep a journal so you can look back one day like Amber can and see not only, wow, how far she has come but how her testimony can inspire others.


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Amanda Wells
Professional Business Coach and prophetic consultant
Profit to Product Strategist

P: 1300 136 643 | M: +61 0417 795 256
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